“You are somebody that I don’t know, but you’re takin’ shots at me like it’s Patron, and I’m just like, damn, it’s 7AM. Say it in the street that’s a knock-out, but you say it in a Tweet, that’s a cop-out, and I’m just like, “Hey are you okay?”

So, I really debated writing about this, because I didn’t want to give attention to the person for what they said, but I have to.

A few months ago, randomly, I received an ANONYMOUS comment on my blog. It was not after I had posted something, which was odd. I deleted it and talked to my family and friends about it. Basically, someone said that I am stuck-up and selfish and I have screwed a lot of people over. That’s the shortened version.

I am not posting this one on my page or my insta. This is for whomever comes and reads.  I highly encourage you to read one of my first blogs, #WhyImSingle, it’s literally on me being shallow and selfish, so we really didn’t to send a message about what I already knew.

The point of this blog is not to put other people down, okay, maybe some posts put down some guys, but come on, they’re based on real stories. I try to make sure that I say that these are just generalizations and not every guy applies. I also thought I have said, on multiple occasions, that I am stuck-up and selfish and shallow. But it’s sort of like when you insult your family, you can do it, you can do it relentlessly, but the moment someone else says something negative, it’s on bitch, like no thank you.

I know my faults, to a fault, and so do all of my friends and family. No one is perfect and I write this blog so other girls, and even some guys, see that they aren’t alone in how they feel. Someone else is going through the same bullshit you are.

I have always been a guy’s girl. Ive had more guy friends than girl friends the majority of my life, until I turned 30. I realized that girl friends are so much more important, especially as you get older, they are your tribe-sorry to be super basic, but it’s true. I now make an effort to get to know more girls and my friends’ friends. As we share stories we realize we have so much in common and we aren’t competing, but empathizing and trying to improve each other’s dating life.

No one likes to feel alone and no one likes to be singled out. If you have a problem with what I am writing or I have offended you in any way, please let me know. I would love to explain my thoughts and also hear how I come across to others.  My friends and my mother, especially, provide feedback on all my blogs, and they don’t hold back, trust me. We all can improve and can be better. I try to hide my vulnerability using sarcasm and I am not everyone’s cup of tea, I am well aware, but I would hope we could talk about it and not just send anonymous messages to let me know you think I am a shitty person.